Friday, November 17, 2006

A double bind occurs when one individual communicates 2 level of messages to another: "when these 2 levels of messages both qualify & conflict each other, the other person is faced with an impossible situation. He cannot respond to either level without violating a prohibition at the other level, and so he is wrong whatever he does." Double-bind situations occur in parent-child and in boss-employee relationships, for example:

Let us say that a child perceives that a parent is angry. The parent denies that she is angry and insists that the child deny it also. Should the child believe his own senses or believe the parent? If the former, the child maintains a sense of reality but loses the relationship with the parent. If the latter, the child maintains the relationship but distorts reality.

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the above passage is actually from one of my textbook (which i'm nv going to touch again!)..
was reading this passage for the first time just a few days back (which explains why i can only ask for mercy for this module..haha...) when i was reminded of THE situation i was in a few weeks back..i dun think it fits fully into this situation..but what i experienced then was double-bind i think...进退两难...double-bind can happen to any 2 ppl i guess...

why are humans so complicated?

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